Learning with King David… How do we change the patterns in our lives (part 2 of 2)

Wish you could live your life more consistently?  Follow along with us today, as we start part 2 of our previous blog of “Learning with King David

So what does all of this mean for today’s parents? How does the pain of David in Psalm 51 and the thoughts of a deep thinker like Ian Morgan Cron, apply to us, today? …. (end of part 1)

1 – Living life from a fractured identity (editing out our ugly past life experiences, skimming over our true conflicts, avoiding the process of recovery from our past wounding) is going to get us in deep trouble if not resolved. As Christians we are NOT immune to the dramatic failing of morality that David experienced. Denial is destructive, and facing ourselves in the safety of a community of faith is crucial to our overcoming destructive patterns in our lives. (Please Note: Proper Counseling and Professional care are often needed for significant life issues)

LESSON: – Living in Denial will lead us to form separate “selves” and allow us to act in completely different ways in front of and around different people or environments. Truth in all we say and all we do forms a barrier between fake and real, an essential character facet of any successful Christian parent.

2- Living our life from a conflicted heart reduces our ability to enjoy a stable, consistent and effective day-to-day existence. Such a life is a bummer, it robs us of joy, peace and power. No more posers, no more acting like we “think” we should to gain others approval. Genuine and authentic motivation is the key.

LESSON: – Singleness of purpose is essential for us to successfully lead others. Multiple agenda’s, re-assessments constantly for better options, and general discontent with what we have will in time erode our conviction and priorities from God’s to our own.

3- Growing into a stable and consistent follower of Christ will require us to carefully examine and adjust our own understanding of what makes us valuable… to embrace Gods plan for our life. That is something we can only find in laying down our preferences for His purposes.

LESSON: – We NEVER grow beyond our need for Grace. No accomplishment, no failure can change our status with a Holy God. If we’re not clear on this, we can rise and fall on our merit alone and miss the life of consistent peace that is promised.

4- Long term healing, consistent change, redemption and recovery will only come to pass as we discard our own in-accurate beliefs about God. He is only good, only loving, He seeks to be intimate with us and share His purposes for our lives. Anything else is a lie, it’s a deliberate attack on our faith. It must be confronted, rejected and overcome with the truth of Gods word and reinforced with a clear understanding of who we are in Christ. (see. Dr. Neil Anderson’s ministry and resources)

LESSON: – Carefully consider NOW what you believe about God’s character. If you proceed into parenting or leading as a Christian, you will encounter life experiences that will challenge your core beliefs about the goodness of God. If your trust or confidence in God is based only on your feelings or senses to see or know God’s presence you could get yourself into deep deception and bondage.

As King David found out, no matter how successful, no matter how powerful, no matter how accomplished we become… We can’t heal our brokeness on our own. We can’t simply read a book and re-orient ourselves back into wholeness. We will have to take the time to ask Jesus (the great physician) to show us where we are broken, where we are dis-integrated. Where our identities have started to split, and our hearts are grievously wounded. When you do, be prepared to experience some discomfort, but in the end the results are worth the effort. Truth sets us free. (John Eldredge and his Ransomed Heart Ministries is a great place to start this process.)

God is calling out to His people to experience “Life“, a full and complete recovery of what has been lost, discarded and or stolen from us. He is offering to restore the thousands of jagged broken pieces into something beautiful and smooth and complete. He wants us to live our lives intact, reconciled to ourselves, others and to Him. Be courageous in this process, don’t give into the temptation to sidestep the broken and antagonistic pieces of a dissatisfied self.

My hope would be for you to get alone for some private time with God. Lay your past, your pain and your fears all out on the table. Look into the battered and fractured splinters of your life and lay them reverently into the healing light of God’s love and grace. No matter how badly you’ve messed life up, it’s not too much for our Creator to re-assemble into a beautiful brand new expression of His power. Remember its a big deal to Jesus to restore the lost,… “To heal the broken-hearted, and to set the captive free”.

I want to be more than another conflicted Christian Parent, struggling to “get it right”. Jesus calls us to lay down our desperate burdens of personal guilt and shame and growing diminishment and simply choose to risk following after Him.

The offer still stands…

Peace out.


(Recommended Readings: please know that much wiser and deeper considerations in Christian literature are available than this blog, and it would be a good investment for some of you to consider more on this topic, Some of my favorites are; AW Tozier, John Eldredge, Francis Chan, Dr. Neil Anderson, CS Lewis and Ian Morgan Cron.)

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