I think it’s safe to write this now… we’ll see !
I’ve raised three teen-agers ( 2 girls and a boy) and anyway you cut it… with the teen years, there is going to be drama. Seriously, until I was a dad I had no idea how much girls fuss and fume about the boys. Hair… makeup, fashion… shoes all become “CRITICAL” issues at some point. I didn’t know how messy boys really were or how much some kids need their space to stay sane !
As parents we have a couple of choices on how to manage the DRAMA. I’m very curious if anyone has had much success with any one approach ? I’m currently working on a new book project and wanted to do some basic research with our RTP readers. Feeling strong… read on !
Girls and boys isolated or together create lots of drama. The older they get… the more it seems to be around. Tears of anger, tears of joy…tears of frustration and tears of sadness. Every kind of TEAR falls in the home of families with tweens and teens. Lots of life get’s sorted out in these years and it’s VERY difficult to know exactly what to do.
I’m starting a series of blog posts to take polls of what average families of faith are doing or have done with their tweens and teens. This is very helpful stuff for those parents living around the hormone storm and struggling to navigate the junior high and HS years.
If you would be so kind… please read and reply via social media or email (firstname.lastname@example.org) and let me know what your families stance has been or will be on the issues below ? This is to help other parents who are struggling a bit… so please be totally honest. Very little has been researched with our emerging digital age of parenting, and we have much to learn from each other!
21 Essential Questions for Parents of tweens / teens !
1-Do you as parents allow your kids to date?
2-Do you have an age limit for dating ?
3-Do you have a curfew ? If so, when ?
4-Do you chaperone your kids dates ?
5-Do you allow your kids to participate with dates at school dances and special events like Prom, Homecoming ?
6-Do you talk with your kids about sexuality before they date? If so, when or at what age?
7-Do you do regular devotions with your kids… if so, how often ?
8-Do you use a particular resource (Bible, App, Ministry, Denomination) to educate your kids about their faith ?
9-How often do you attend church on average ?
10-Do you take your pre-teens or teen with you to Church or do you let them decide ?
11- Have your kids been baptized ? If so, at what age ?
12- If you were honest, which emotion is most common for you as a parent ? (Fear / or / Love)
13- Do you allow your kids to watch TV ? If so, how much and what shows ?
14- Do you allow your kids to watch R rated movies ?
15- Do you review your kids iPod’s or other mobile devices for browser history and text message content ? If so, do you tell them?
16- How do you discipline your kids ?
17 – Would you say your kids are “Christian” in the cultural sense ?
18- Would you characterize your kids as being “Passionate” about their faith ?
19- Do you know if your kids read the bible ? If so, how often would you guess ?
20- Do you know if your kids believe what you believe ? How did you determine that ?
21 – Do you allow your kids to have a mobile phone / smartphone and if so, at what age ?
Thanks so much for taking a little time to help with this project ! Results will be forthcoming and shared on RTP 🙂